When she met me first, her life was a mess. One failed relationship, 2 abusive men at home- father and brother, mother had ran away with her boyfriend long back, Father was a drunkard, lost his job and all his money, all his relative’s trust too. Nobody to look after the family, this girl used to cook , do household chores before going to school. She was so ashamed of her family background that couldn’t make friends with anyone. She wanted no one to know about her family. And putting all this together for around 6 years, now she had nothing look forward to. She had suicidal ideation. She wasn’t even thinking of coming to me for counseling. Just at that point I was invited as a guest in her college to speak about Emotional Intelligence. Some how she felt connected with me and later approached me .
In spite of this stressful life for years, she was very good in her academics. And that was something she could hold on to. So we had numerous sessions of therapy. There was too much baggage that she was carrying. She realized that she could end her suffering, she HAD ways to get out of this situation. Her first step was to resist getting beaten up by her father. She gathered courage to tell him that if he touches her even once hereafter, she is going to police. And she actually did that. One visit of a police officer at home and her physical abuse stopped. Gradually, she started focusing on her career and decided to leave home. She approached one NGO for financial support for her education. She worked part time. Now she has a job. Her family realized her value after she left home. She is supporting them but without compromising on her well being and happiness. She donates a part of her salary to the NGO so as to support other unfortunate students for their future.